How to say no to the dungarees

Photo from asos.com

I’ve noticed from the stats for my blog that a lot of people are directed here after searching for information on maternity clothes. So, I thought I’d offer a little info on the options available here in Sweden and where I found the clothes that have sustained me through pregnancy.

For the basics (vest tops, leggings, tights, maternity bras), I found that I could not go wrong with H&M. A pack of two maternity/breastfeeding bras costs around 200-250kr (one black, one white) and you can also pick up a maternity starter pack of vest top, leggings and bump cover in black for around 300kr. I also found a great pair of jeans there for just under 500kr but I advise you to try these on first as they can be a bit hit and miss. The advantage of H&M is that if your local store does not stock maternity wear (mammakläder), then you can always buy online and have the items delivered to your door.

After H&M, I headed to ASOS, another online store, this one based in the UK. Here you can find some slightly more interesting maternity gear and although the pregnancy outfits do not change as frequently as the stock in other parts of the store, the range is pretty good. ASOS is also good if you’re looking for something a little more dressy or fashion-forward. The postage to Sweden is a flat rate of 60kr for standard delivery (within 6 days) and 120kr for express (within 4 days).

I’ve also picked up a few tops in Zara (some maternity, others not) but here in Sweden their maternity range is limited to one very small rack, and when I was in London even the large stores in the West End did not seem to stock clothes for pregnant ladies, which was very disappointing. That said, one of the maternity tops I bought there I have definitely had my money’s worth from!

Mamas & Papas in the UK offers a good range of clothes and now also delivers overseas (to Europe for €15). I picked up quite a few items here during my London trip in December. The shop offers a good range of basics as well as seasonal clothes too.

If you want to take things more upscale, two options I have found to lust over are Isabella Oliver and Mama La Mode if you want to splash out.

On the whole, I’ve been disappointed with the range of pregnancy clothes available here in Sweden, finding Polarn O Pyret too expensive for what you get and a little too frumpy and the ranges in most other stores too narrow.

However, one tip I have been given by all friends who have already had children is Boob breastfeeding tops. Unfortunately, they are redoing their English site but on the Swedish part of the site you can see how these tops work and even buy online. Also available are maternity clothes. Most of the big maternity stores in Stockholm also stock some Boob clothing.

Battle station ready

Photo by nolifiek (on Flickr)

As of this weekend, we’re now battle station ready in case gyermek should decide to come two weeks early (well, almost ready – the hospital bag is mostly packed, but the birth plan is finally with the hospital). Although I am not convinced that he/she will come early – out of four of us, two have had babies early and one five days late, so mine should also be late, right? Ha ha, let’s see.

This weekend, Husband and I started a betting pool on when gyermek will arrive. He’s going for 1 May, the day before the due date, but I’m sure that’s only because he thinks gyermek will come at the most inconvenient time, and 1 May is Labour Day here an a huge public holiday, meaning that getting a taxi to take us to the hospital will be an interesting challenge. I, on the other hand, am betting on 5 May, a few days over just to keep me on my toes but not too late (I am guessing here that gyermek takes more after Husband rather than me on this front – my birth came around three weeks after the midwife had said I’d be born…).

Anyway, back to what I was planning to write about. As we approach the big day, I thought I could share some of what I’ve learned about pain relief options from our birth class and from what I’ve read.

  • Movement: In the first phase of birth, movement is recommended as a way to block out the pain of contractions. In Birth Skills, Juju Sundin suggests concentrating on moving your feet in a rhythm or rubbing the soles together when a contraction comes. She writes that any form of rhythmic movement that diverts your attention away from the contraction can be used – for example,  rocking and swaying your hips, marching, pacing, rhythmic steps, sliding your back up and down the wall, bouncing on the fitness ball and even stomping in shallow water.
  • Massage: As part of our lamaze/childbirth class, we learned different massage techniques that partners can use to help us to relax, as massage releases endorphins (“happy” hormones) in the body. Those of you who read Swedish can check this out (from page 10), and those who cannot might get some benefit from the drawings or can read about them in English here.
  • Acupuncture: I’m afraid that this is not an area that I have investigated too thoroughly as I really cannot stand needles. But one thing I can say is that midwives in Sweden also have training in acupuncture and so you can take advantage of that as a pain relief and relaxation technique in Swedish birth units. This article tells you a little more about the advantages (allows movement, can be used with other forms of pain relief, can be used for home births) and disadvantages (it might not work for you, you might find it too stimulating and irritating) of acupuncture during labour.
  • Warm water: Standing in a shower of warm running water is relaxing enough at any time and can be especially so during labour. Again, this can prompt your body to release endorphins.
  • TENS: This little machine has had mixed reviews – some love it, some cannot feel much effect from it. TENS works by passing small electronic vibrations to pads that you attach to your back. Its advantages are that it can be used with other forms of pain relief (except those involving water!) and that it releases endorphins. It’s a good idea to try out the machine beforehand (despite having borrowed a TENS machine nearly four weeks ago, I haven’t yet tried it out – time is ticking!).
  • Lamaze breathing and relaxation: Although you can read about Lamaze breathing techniques online, I think it is best to sign up for a class (generally taken about six to eight weeks before your due date) as then you really get a chance to practice the breathing properly. In Stockholm, you can sign up for a class in English called Lamaze & Active Childbirth, which I highly recommend. One of the great advantages of Lamaze breathing is that you and your partner work on and practice the techniques together – we really found that it both interesting and fun to learn.
  • Laughing gas: This gas is a mixture of oxygen and nitrous oxide that can be used during labour. An advantage of the gas is that if you don’t get along with it, then you just stop using it and it leaves your body almost straight away. On the other hand, you need to time your contractions well and get that mask on in time as it takes around 20-30 seconds to feel the effect of the gas. I’ve used it once before, at the dentist for fillings – my dentist said beforehand that it feels like being at a party and having had one glass of wine too many. And without the subsequent hangover! However, it can make some feel nauseous.
  • Epidural (EDA): An epidural into the spine blocks pain and sensation from the waist down. The anesthesiologist first gives a local anesthetic at the base of the spine and then inserts a catheter into the epidural space. In Sweden, walking epidurals are generally given, which allow you to move a certain distance from the equipment, rather than having to lie on the bed. Again, I’m afraid, this is not an area that I have investigated too much – needles and all that…
  • Sterile water injections (trialled in Sweden): This form of pain relief seems mainly to be used to combat severe back pain during labour. For me, the main problem with this is that the injections are said to hurt… a lot. In fact, I’ve heard of women having to use Lamaze breathing to be able to have the injections! You can read some more about them here in English and Swedish. The effect of the injections is said to last for one to two hours.
  • Paracervical block (Västerviksmetoden): A paracervical block of two injections into the cervix can be used to combat pain in the early labour stages but unfortunately does not have much effect later on in labour. It does not seem to be used much in Sweden nowadays.

Well, there we go – some different pain relief options to think about.

Försäkringskassan – the sequel

This monster rears its ugly head again… After posting about it in brief last month, I’ve discovered a little more about the system now. I still don’t claim to be an expert on it, or even fully to understand exactly how it works, but I have found a useful page (in Swedish only, I’m afraid) that runs through what you should do step-by-step.

 For those who don’t understand/read Swedish, the steps seem to be the following:

  1. Send in moderskapsintyg (the paper that you will have received from your midwife with your basic details – name, personal number, due date etc)
  2. Once Försäkringskassan has processed this, you’ll receive a form about income. Fill this in and send to Försäkringskassan (you’ll later receive confirmation of this from them).
  3. If you don’t already have it, download e-legitimation (you can get this from your online banking site)
  4. Go to Föräldraguiden on Försäkringskassan’s website, which gives you an overview of how the system works (in Swedish)
  5. Plan how much leave you’ll take
  6. Agree with youremployer about how long you’ll take off work
  7. Claim parental benefit from Försäkringskassan via this page (you’ll need e-legitimation to log in here) by registering the details with Försäkringskassan.

After this, I assume that you’ll receive further confirmation that they have processed your parental benefit claim. I’ll let you know – we’re (finally!) reaching step 7, so there is light at the end of the very long Försäkringskassan tunnel.

They certainly don’t like to make things easy…

Free goodies

Photo by English Mamma

Yesterday we were out (and in glorious sunshine, no less - it was still below zero, but sunshine at last!) to pick up our Babybox from Babyland.

Babybox is a little package of six nappies for newborns and wet wipes from Pampers, a dummy, a pregnancy magazine, a guide for new parents and a few other freebies.

The newborn nappies are just so teeny tiny that it is hard to believe we’ll be able to use them much, but then when I compared them to the size of my bump, they seemed just enormous. Well, gyermek still has eight more weeks of growing to do and, given the itchiness of my stomach this weekend, I’m guessing we’re right in the middle of a big growth spurt.

Photo by English Mamma

I had fun yesterday afternoon unpacking and investigating the contents. It’s always nice to be given things for free!

Photo by English Mamma

The joy of Forsakringskassan

Well, I had been planning to write a post outlining a few details about Försäkringskassan and the forms that need to be filled in to receive föraldrapenning (parental benefits in Sweden). However, despite filling in all of the forms and submitting them, I am still overwhelmed by the process and remain largely confused about how the system really works.

What does not help either is that I keep reading articles about maximising parental benefit but none of the examples that they have provided are relevant to our situation. And when I have asked friends and colleagues for advice, they have admitted that they too find the system a complete mystery.

So rather than the blind leading the blind, I will instead just point those interested in the direction of this page in English on Försäkringskassan’s website and wish you the very best of luck because, believe me, you will need it…

Third trimester visits

Photo by Voxphoto (on Flickr)

So now I’m in the third trimester, my visits to the midwife have sped up to every three weeks.

Every visit we follow the same basic procedure: she measures my belly to see how gyermek is growing, we listen to the heartbeat (and occasionally hear little hiccups!), she takes my blood pressure and then the worst part – a blood prick test on the finger to test my blood sugar level. I dread this for two reasons: first, I am a total wimp when it comes to needles and even this test gets my heart racing; and secondly, I know just how many sweet things I’ve been eating… I know it is terrible, but since I got pregnant I have been a cake and chocolate fiend. (I now have a bit of a reputation at work since I nearly bowled over a colleague in my haste to make it to the kitchen one day when we were having cake…)

After these few tests by the midwife, we sit and have a bit of a chat about how I feel. She seems terribly concerned about stress, which I find quite bemusing as I feel pretty relaxed about most things to do with the pregnancy, and even the birth does not worry too unduly (well, not for the moment, anyway).

For those who can read Swedish, this gives some good information on what to expect during visits to the midwife in the third trimester.

On being the designated driver…

So, we’re off to a BYOB party this evening, and of course that means taking the now-usual two bottles: a delicious, full-bodied bottle of red for Husband and a bottle of something far less interesting for me. Over the past few months I’ve tested a few of the different alcohol-free beers and wines on offer, and on the whole, you won’t be surprised to hear that the vast majority of them taste pretty appalling.

On Systembolaget’s website (the site for the state-run alcohol retail monopoly), you can search for all 25 of the different alcohol-free drinks you can buy here in Sweden.

Normally, I would choose wine over beer, but in alcohol-free terms that just isn’t really an option; you see, alcohol-free wine tastes… well… disgusting. The first bottle I bought is described on the website as having “a strong berry aroma”. Well, so far, so good and true enough. However, it goes on to describe the taste as being of “berry and jam, specifically blueberry, plums and vanilla”. Hmmm, yes. In other words, it tastes of juice. Such a disappointment after the smell, which was of a lovely full-bodied red.

Photo from Carlsberg

Well, if an Australian wine was that bad, perhaps an American red would be different? Or not… Not only did it taste of juice, it even smelled like juice, despite the website stating that it tastes of “blueberry, lingonberry and grass” with an aroma of the same.

I made one final attempt, just before Christmas, to test a wine: Fre wine. All I can say is what a mistake that proved to be. It smelled of juice and tasted of… absolutely nothing…

So, I gave up with the wines and switched to alcohol-free beer. And you know what? Carlsberg Non-Alcoholic beer actually taste like beer. Long Live Carlsberg!

Further adventures in babyworld

Photo by matt.ohara

If you can read Swedish, then vardguiden is a great source of information on pregnancy in Sweden; this page focuses on what goes on in your second trimester.

If not, don’t worry. Here is a quick guide to what visits you’ll make in your second trimester. Basically, you are due for one standard trip to the midwife and an ultrasound (your second if you chose to have the NUPP test at around 12 weeks).

The ultrasound is an amazing experience – seeing your little one on screen. And it can be a chance to learn a little more about them (such as their little quirks and habits)

The second-trimester trip to the midwife should be booked for shortly after your 18-week ultrasound (usually, you arrange this with the midwife at your booking-in appointment).

For us, this appointment went quite quickly. Our midwife checked that I was feeling okay with everything, that we were happy with how it went at the scan. And then we got to hear little gyermek’s heart beating – another amazing first to add to the list. She then booked me a place on BB’s Stockholm’s ward at Danderyd Hospital. I need to have a back-up hospital, but provided that everything is healthy with the rest of my pregnancy, I have a bed waiting for me at Danderyd.

My midwife also gave me a “moderskapsintyg” with some information about the expected birth date and a little information about me to send to Försäkringskassan (the Swedish Social Insurance Agency). On this contact page, you can find all the different addresses to send forms to – I just hope I’ve picked the right one!

My next visit is now booked for week 24 and I walked out of the BVC armed with a book (in Swedish) about birth alternatives. My homework before the next appointment is to read through that and come up with options for the birth plan. I am just hoping that the book does not scare me as much as reading this did…