Lean, mean feeding machine

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Well, not exactly lean, but certainly mean and most definitely a feeding machine. No, I will not be joining La Leche League at any time soon though.

High- (or low-) lights of breastfeeding so far:

  • The pain when breastfeeding that the first midwife said would only hurt for the first ten or so times.
  • O having a touch of jaundice, making him very tired and preventing him from feeding properly. As breastfeeding is everything here in Sweden, the next thing I know I am sitting up in bed while a midwife ‘milks’ me into a teaspoon and then feeds the tiny output to O.
  • Only being able to breastfeed while lying down and the pain still being so intense then that I have to employ the lamaze breathing exercises to get him to latch on.
  • Being told by another midwife that the pain will continue for the first couple of weeks.
  • Eventually being able to breastfeed sitting up but the pain spreading from my nipples to the whole breast and lasting for an hour to an hour and a half afterwards.
  • And finally, today - after three weeks of painful breastfeeding - being told what I had feared: that I have thrush and have to have this treated. Hopefully, this will stop the pain. And luckily, the thrush doesn’t seem to have transferred to O.

So, now I am crossing fingers and toes that the treatment works and solves the problem of the pain as I really want to be able to breastfeed successfully. As I said, it’s all about the breastfeeding here and you are made to feel guilty if you cannot or choose not to breastfeed.

It really has been a tough few weeks with the feeding. On the other hand, O is a well-behaved little thing, sleeping reasonably well, feeding only twice during the night and generally being adorable. And for that I count our blessings.

Battle station ready

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As of this weekend, we’re now battle station ready in case gyermek should decide to come two weeks early (well, almost ready – the hospital bag is mostly packed, but the birth plan is finally with the hospital). Although I am not convinced that he/she will come early – out of four of us, two have had babies early and one five days late, so mine should also be late, right? Ha ha, let’s see.

This weekend, Husband and I started a betting pool on when gyermek will arrive. He’s going for 1 May, the day before the due date, but I’m sure that’s only because he thinks gyermek will come at the most inconvenient time, and 1 May is Labour Day here an a huge public holiday, meaning that getting a taxi to take us to the hospital will be an interesting challenge. I, on the other hand, am betting on 5 May, a few days over just to keep me on my toes but not too late (I am guessing here that gyermek takes more after Husband rather than me on this front – my birth came around three weeks after the midwife had said I’d be born…).

Anyway, back to what I was planning to write about. As we approach the big day, I thought I could share some of what I’ve learned about pain relief options from our birth class and from what I’ve read.

  • Movement: In the first phase of birth, movement is recommended as a way to block out the pain of contractions. In Birth Skills, Juju Sundin suggests concentrating on moving your feet in a rhythm or rubbing the soles together when a contraction comes. She writes that any form of rhythmic movement that diverts your attention away from the contraction can be used – for example,  rocking and swaying your hips, marching, pacing, rhythmic steps, sliding your back up and down the wall, bouncing on the fitness ball and even stomping in shallow water.
  • Massage: As part of our lamaze/childbirth class, we learned different massage techniques that partners can use to help us to relax, as massage releases endorphins (“happy” hormones) in the body. Those of you who read Swedish can check this out (from page 10), and those who cannot might get some benefit from the drawings or can read about them in English here.
  • Acupuncture: I’m afraid that this is not an area that I have investigated too thoroughly as I really cannot stand needles. But one thing I can say is that midwives in Sweden also have training in acupuncture and so you can take advantage of that as a pain relief and relaxation technique in Swedish birth units. This article tells you a little more about the advantages (allows movement, can be used with other forms of pain relief, can be used for home births) and disadvantages (it might not work for you, you might find it too stimulating and irritating) of acupuncture during labour.
  • Warm water: Standing in a shower of warm running water is relaxing enough at any time and can be especially so during labour. Again, this can prompt your body to release endorphins.
  • TENS: This little machine has had mixed reviews – some love it, some cannot feel much effect from it. TENS works by passing small electronic vibrations to pads that you attach to your back. Its advantages are that it can be used with other forms of pain relief (except those involving water!) and that it releases endorphins. It’s a good idea to try out the machine beforehand (despite having borrowed a TENS machine nearly four weeks ago, I haven’t yet tried it out – time is ticking!).
  • Lamaze breathing and relaxation: Although you can read about Lamaze breathing techniques online, I think it is best to sign up for a class (generally taken about six to eight weeks before your due date) as then you really get a chance to practice the breathing properly. In Stockholm, you can sign up for a class in English called Lamaze & Active Childbirth, which I highly recommend. One of the great advantages of Lamaze breathing is that you and your partner work on and practice the techniques together – we really found that it both interesting and fun to learn.
  • Laughing gas: This gas is a mixture of oxygen and nitrous oxide that can be used during labour. An advantage of the gas is that if you don’t get along with it, then you just stop using it and it leaves your body almost straight away. On the other hand, you need to time your contractions well and get that mask on in time as it takes around 20-30 seconds to feel the effect of the gas. I’ve used it once before, at the dentist for fillings – my dentist said beforehand that it feels like being at a party and having had one glass of wine too many. And without the subsequent hangover! However, it can make some feel nauseous.
  • Epidural (EDA): An epidural into the spine blocks pain and sensation from the waist down. The anesthesiologist first gives a local anesthetic at the base of the spine and then inserts a catheter into the epidural space. In Sweden, walking epidurals are generally given, which allow you to move a certain distance from the equipment, rather than having to lie on the bed. Again, I’m afraid, this is not an area that I have investigated too much – needles and all that…
  • Sterile water injections (trialled in Sweden): This form of pain relief seems mainly to be used to combat severe back pain during labour. For me, the main problem with this is that the injections are said to hurt… a lot. In fact, I’ve heard of women having to use Lamaze breathing to be able to have the injections! You can read some more about them here in English and Swedish. The effect of the injections is said to last for one to two hours.
  • Paracervical block (Västerviksmetoden): A paracervical block of two injections into the cervix can be used to combat pain in the early labour stages but unfortunately does not have much effect later on in labour. It does not seem to be used much in Sweden nowadays.

Well, there we go – some different pain relief options to think about.

Quick book shelf review

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After rearranging all my pregnancy books to please Husband (on a shelf rather than “aesthetically positioned” on and around the bedside table), I thought you might like to hear my views on some of the books I am reading/have read (and if you don’t, you can always read some of my other posts…)

Birth and Beyond – Dr Yehudi Gordon: This is a great all-rounder. Dr Yehudi Gordon is a top obstetrician and the book covers a whole range of topics from pre-pregnancy to the first year after your baby is born. I think it sits pretty well with the approach by midwives here in Sweden as it recommends both medical and complementary healthcare – there are sections on baby massage and homeopathy as well as a great A-Z health section for both mother and baby. The downsides are that it is more pricey (£25) and is quite a large tome, weighing in at a couple of kilos. However, I think I’ll be consulting this from time to time in the future. *****

Natural Nursery Knits – Erika Knight: A beautiful book to peruse, but I would recommend it only to those intermediate or advanced knitters; the patterns are not for beginners. But for those who can, it is full of wonderful items to create, including a cellular blanket, sweater an trousers, hat and boots and a bird mobile. The book costs £16.99. *****

The Baby Whisperer – Tracy Hogg: This one I have only read a little bit of so far, but I really like her approach. The book is very down to earth and seems to accept that you cannot use one routine to fit all babies. I really need to get further with this one as the due date approaches, since she starts right at the beginning from when you bring the little one home. This book costs £12.99. ***** (based on the little I have read so far)

Gravid- och mammayoga – Estela Mathlein: I received this one as part of the pregnancy yoga course I’ve attended (run by Estela). The book runs through the yoga positions that we have covered in class as well as giving tips for yoga breathing and positions to use during the birth. Although I have struggled a little with the yoga itself, I would recommend the course to others (as I wrote before, I just think now that yoga and I are not destined to be best friends…) as I think it could be very helpful for some. I am not sure how much the book costs to buy but you can find out more information about Estela’s course here. *****

The Best Friends’ Guide to Pregnancy – Vicki Iovine: I love the style of this book – she tells it like it is (headings in the book include “General P*ssed-offness”, “The Titty Fairy” and “I Am Getting So Big That I Might Explode”). I read this very early in pregnancy and was glad I had as it lets you know about all the weird and wonderful things that are likely to happen to your body and in a very down-to-earth manner. In fact, I read it at the same time as flicking through Birth and Beyond and they make a good pairing, one written from a professional’s point of view and the other from someone who has been through exactly what you’re now experiencing. You can pick this one up for £10.99. *****

Juju Sundin’s Birth Skills – with Sarah Murdoch: I am reading this book in conjunction with the lamaze/active childbirth class that we’re attending (which I highly recommend) and the two go well together as the class really teaches you the power of the lamaze breathing technique, while this book cover topics like movement, visualisation and vocalising. I’m about a third of the way through this book now (and I guess I really need to hurry up reading it with the due date just three weeks away – eek!) and it is another that i very down-to-earth. Juju Sundin is an obstetrician in Australia who teaches birth preparation classes, so the book is a solid combination of the science and nature of birth and good techniques for pain management. I am enjoying reading (some of!) the different birth stories each chapter in which women say how these methods worked for them, although I think techniques I could struggle with – visualisation, anyone? The book costs £14.99. *****

How She Really Does It – Wendy Sachs: Not really much to say about this book – subtitled “Secrets of Successful Stay-at-Work Mums” – just yet as I have not even opened it. I saw it on offer and thought it might be interesting, but it’s for some months further down the line. At the moment, I just want to concentrate on birth, baby and breastfeeding!

Ten things they don’t tell you about pregnancy

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Disclaimer: If you have not been pregnant or are looking forward to getting pregnant, you might want to stop here and read no further…

…just to let you know…!

 So, here they are, the things that no one tells you before you get pregnant (or at least not to any extent). Not really any kind of conspiracy, more that it’s just not a typical dinner party topic…
  1. Morning sickness: The name is a total misnomer – it can strike at any time and frequently does; it can last throughout the whole day; and it can last longer than the first trimester.
  2. Sore breasts: Despite the appreciation that your partner might show for your busty new look (a leap from a 36B to a 40D and still growing, in my case), you just cannot bear for them to be touched. Even fabric touching them is too much in the first few months.
  3. Ten months: Because of the way pregnancy is calculated (ie from the first day of your last period), you are actually pregnant for ten months, not nine. This means if you realise very early on that you are pregnant, then the time seems to stre-e-e-e-tch out (especially in the first few months when you haven’t told people).
  4. Excessive saliva: You drool onto your pillow each night and often wake up in a puddle of wetness around your face, since you have to sleep with your mouth open because…
  5. Blocked nose: Your nose is blocked for most of the ten months, and when it is not blocked, it is running profusely.
  6. Big bottom: Yes, your bottom increases in size. Could this be to balance your growing belly? But if so, why does it happen before there is any sign that your stomach is getting larger?
  7. Bleeding gums: Brushing your teeth becomes a skill test – can you manage to brush for two minutes without any blood at all. No, is the answer, as I found out. And the dentist just shrugs his shoulders and tells you that it will disappear once the baby arrives.
  8. Heartburn: Once it arrives, it seems that heartburn just will not go away. In fact, the digestion seems to slow down so much (presumably as the baby grows and pushes your stomach up somewhere deep into your lungs) that heartburn can strike five to six hours after you finish eating.
  9. Discharge: A really nice one, this one. Some can get away with using only one or two pantyliners a day, while others have to use full-on sanitary pads.
  10. However… none of this matters the first time that you feel the little one kick inside your stomach. And no matter how hard they kick as the weeks go on, it still is just the most incredible feeling to be growing this little person inside you. What an amazing thing nature is.

The joy of Forsakringskassan

Well, I had been planning to write a post outlining a few details about Försäkringskassan and the forms that need to be filled in to receive föraldrapenning (parental benefits in Sweden). However, despite filling in all of the forms and submitting them, I am still overwhelmed by the process and remain largely confused about how the system really works.

What does not help either is that I keep reading articles about maximising parental benefit but none of the examples that they have provided are relevant to our situation. And when I have asked friends and colleagues for advice, they have admitted that they too find the system a complete mystery.

So rather than the blind leading the blind, I will instead just point those interested in the direction of this page in English on Försäkringskassan’s website and wish you the very best of luck because, believe me, you will need it…

Pram-tastic

Deciding on which brand, model and fabric for a pram has been a long and complicated process. Who knew that there were so many out there?

In Stockholm city centre (and also in central London), there is an overabundance of Bugaboo Cameleon prams. In one way, I can understand this as they seem to be built mainly as city prams. However, they also appear to struggle in this winter wonderland (ahem…) that we are currently experiencing. Interestingly, last weekend we were in Uppsala, where we saw very few Cameleons and a far greater number of Brios, Teutonias and Emmaljungas, which just seem, well, a bit more up to the job of handling snow, ice and that lovely brown slush so prevalent on the streets at the moment.

So, this morning we were very proud parents-to-be marching into the baby shop and declaring that, yes, we had decided and we were there to order a Teutonia Cosmo and that, yes, we knew which colour and pattern we wanted. We even knew the answer to the next question: yes, we would like the additional carrycot attachment and car seat.

Excuse me, what was that? We have to choose the colour of the carrycot? And it doesn’t come in the same colour scheme as we have chosen for the pushchair part?

So, we spent the next 25 minutes debating the relative merits of each of the eight different colour options: should we just go for the brown to match the brown of the seating part? Or would the sand colour be a good compliment? Or should be opt for another colour altogether, given that the two would never be used simultaneously? The choices to be made…

Photo by Teutonia

Just as we finally narrow it down to either the purple or the brown, another shop assistant throws a spanner into the works, by casually mentioning that you can choose a different colour for the inside of the carrycot to the exterior fabric. During this time, four other couples had already come in, been served and departed, as we stood there studying the fabric swatches. We’d been there so long at this point that we were even asked if we wanted to sit somewhere comfortable while we made our decision.

But, finally, finally… consensus was reached (please don’t ask how the baby names process is going): the Teutonia Cosmo in colour pattern 3880, with a carrycot (brown exterior, sand interior) and a sand-coloured car seat.

And after all that, we also had to decide on the bloody delivery date!

The do’s and don’ts of eating

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I just came across this great post on Mama Eve Blog. It really struck home my feeling when reading all the differing advice on what you should and shouldn’t eat during pregnancy.

This is my first pregnancy and I feel the same way that Suchada says she did in her first: following all the “rules” as much as possible – no unpasteurised cheese, no cured meat, no alcohol, tuna only in small doses, red meat cooked to well done and no sushi (although I do have to admit that cutting out sushi altogether has been easier said than done).

I’ve noticed, however, that friends in their second and later pregnancies comfortably eat all these apparently prohibited foods with little concern.

And as Suchada points out, most of these warnings regarding food are related to food poisoning fears.

So, a belated New Year’s resolution: I’m not going to be so overly anxious about food (within reason, of course). Provided I use my common sense, I think there are a good number of foods on the list that I can eat in moderation, particularly as I am not someone who is susceptible to food poisoning.

Of course, I will still do whatever I can to ensure that I protect little gyermek (such as by avoiding Thai green curry!), but as Suchada puts it: “if you (or the baby) want the salad with the feta cheese, just eat it!”

As she goes on to say: “There’s no need to live in a bubble just because you’re expecting. Enjoy the time! There are too many other things about pregnancy that are uncomfortable and strange that we shouldn’t impose extra rules just because.”

Thank you, Suchada, for putting me back in touch with my pre-pregnancy common sense.

Hormonal

A pregnant woman produces as much oestrogen in one day as a non-pregnant woman does in three years

“Conception, Pregnancy and Birth”, Dr Miriam Stoppard